what to do now
What do I do if I think my child is using harmful substances?
If you suspect, or have discovered, that your child is drinking alcohol or using other drugs, it’s time to take action. Take a deep breath and then prepare for what might be a very difficult conversation with your teen. Being prepared is key to a better outcome for both you and your child. After you deal with your own disbelief, anger, or disappointment, learn the warning signs of teen alcohol and other drug use.
Know the signs
Below you’ll find the warning signs that might indicate your child has a problem with alcohol or other drugs. Experts believe that problem use is more likely if you notice several of these simultaneously or they are extreme in nature.
- Mood changes: flare-ups of temper, irritability, and defensiveness
- School problems: poor attendance, low grades, and/or recent disciplinary action
- Rebellion against family rules
- Friend changes: switching friends and a reluctance to let you get to know the new friends
- A “nothing matters” attitude: sloppy appearance, a lack of involvement in former interests, and general low energy
- Alcohol presence: finding it in your child’s room or backpack, or smelling alcohol on his or her breath
- Physical or mental problems: memory lapses, poor concentration, bloodshot eyes, lack of coordination, or slurred speech
and Carry On
Your end goal is to help your child and figure out next steps. Tell your child you love them and that is why you are so concerned. Be prepared for them to say shocking, hurtful things, deny even the most convincing evidence, and accuse you of not trusting them. If the conversation gets too heated, take a break and resume later.
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