While the holiday break is often seen as a time to relax, for many teens it can quietly increase feelings of isolation. Without daily school interactions, extracurriculars, and routine social contact, teens may feel disconnected right when they need connection most. This reflects a broader trend: the growing teen isolation and loneliness epidemic.
The U.S. Surgeon General recently identified loneliness as a serious public health concern, especially for young people. Psychologist and researcher Jon Haidt has also highlighted how reduced face-to-face interaction, increased screen time, and fewer opportunities for unstructured social connection are impacting teen well-being. Teens are more connected digitally than ever, yet many feel isolated in real life.
Holiday break offers an important opportunity to help teens build and practice the skills that counter isolation, especially peer connection.
Encourage teens to look outward, not inward. Loneliness often convinces teens they are alone in their struggles. Reaching out to a friend, checking in on someone who seems quiet, or inviting others to spend time together can shift that mindset. Supporting peers not only helps others feel included, it gives teens a sense of purpose and belonging. Connection works both ways; it’s a win-win.
Normalize taking initiative in friendships. Many teens want connection but hesitate to make the first move. Parents can encourage simple steps like sending a text, planning a casual get-together, or organizing a small group activity. These moments help teens build confidence in communication, empathy, and leadership, skills they will rely on long after high school.
Create opportunities for shared, real-world experiences. Jon Haidt emphasizes the importance of in-person interaction and unstructured time for healthy development. Activities like walking together, volunteering, playing a pickup game, cooking, or exploring the community allow teens to connect without pressure. These shared experiences strengthen relationships and teach cooperation, problem-solving, and emotional awareness.
Support environments that foster teen community. In San Juan Capistrano, allcove is a newly opened, youth-centered space designed specifically to support teen well-being and connection. allcove offers drop-in activities, peer groups, and events where teens can show up as they are, meet others, and feel a sense of belonging. Spaces like this help teens practice navigating relationships, supporting one another, and building community in a safe, welcoming environment.
The ability to build community, reach out for support, and support others is not just a social skill; it’s a life skill. Teens who learn how to connect meaningfully are better equipped to handle transitions, manage stress, and build support systems as they head to college, enter the workforce, or wherever life takes them after high school. This holiday break can be more than a pause from school; it can be a meaningful time to strengthen relationships and prepare teens for what comes next.